Ilesh Darji


Stability Is a Skill: Navigating Life While Rebuilding

Most people think stability means having everything in order — calm, predictable, under control.

But if you’ve ever faced seasons of change — emotionally, spiritually, or professionally — you know that’s not how it works.

True stability isn’t about what’s around you. It’s about what you practice within you.


Stability is not the absence of chaos

Life doesn’t pause when things fall apart. Kids still need breakfast. Clients still expect delivery. Bills still come through the door.

Stability is the ability to adapt — and still move forward. To build rhythm in the noise.


It’s a skill, not a trait

Just like you can learn to code or play an instrument, you can learn how to stay grounded:

  • Through routines that anchor you (like journaling, prayer, or even a gym session)
  • Through habits that build trust in yourself again
  • Through stillness — and also movement

Reframing the moment

I’ve shifted my inner voice from:

“Everything’s broken”

To:

“Everything’s under construction”

That shift doesn’t change circumstances, but it changes how we walk through them. And that changes everything.


My anchors right now

For me, three things help me stay steady:

  • Bhagwan (God) — remembering I’m not alone
  • Coding and writing — it gives me something to build even as I rebuild myself
  • Service to others — whether as a parent, teacher, or teammate — reminds me to act from love, not fear

Closing thought

You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be composed.

You just have to practice stability — even when it feels clumsy.

Because stability isn’t who you are. It’s what you practice — until it becomes who you become.


🧠 Reflection Prompt:
What’s your anchor right now? What’s one small way you’re practicing stability in your own life?